Moving from Relation-ships... to Love-ships, Heart-ships, Joy-ships...

Ok, so again this morning, I was greeted with a message of another breakup, breakdown, split, in what had been up until recently a fairly ok relationship. Let's back up a minute...

It all started a few weeks ago when one of my clients wrote regarding the sudden end to her relationship, then another one wrote, and another and yet another. I felt strongly that I needed to write a bit about what is going on, but found myself in the midst of the shifting sands re-evaluating, re-negotiating, re-defining my own soul partnership. It has at times been messy, but we are still here. 

We are still in this thing together. What I will say though, is that from our perfectly arranged beginning of our being together, we have felt guided by a commitment bigger, higher, and somehow beyond our human individuated ego forms. We have been committed to JOY as a family. That commitment has been the guiding force and the litmus test for every seemingly minor decision as well as the BIG ones. "Is this taking us closer to joy, or away from it?" "Does this choice strengthen or weaken US as a whole?" "Are we growing or contracting as a result of this direction we are currently moving in?"

It has made for a LOT of discussion, as we are all still healing... my belief is if you are breathing you are still healing. But what exactly are we healing? Some days it feels like we are trying to heal the world through our particular dance with each other... Not saying that is what we are ATTEMPTING to do... it feels like that is the amount of pressure and responsibility we feel... and it can look really messy. But I am certain from a higher perspective it is a beautiful mess. But most days... most days like today, it feels like we are healing our own misunderstandings about who we are and why we are here. 

I feel in fact that this is a little microcosm of what is playing out on a much wider scale energetically. I have written about the Divine Masculine/Divine Feminine previously, and feel there is a massive shift that we have found ourselves in the midst of. 

We have been ruled and conditioned by the victim/bully/rescuer cycle. We have played out the fear/lack consciousness as far as it will go. The relationships that we have built over the last several hundred to a couple thousand years have been based on need. Need to be loved, need to be protected, need to be provided for, need, need... NEED. They have been based on the premise that who we are is not enough. Not good enough, not strong enough, not smart enough, not capable enough. We have been conditioned to believe that we must always be in search of someone or something outside of us to fulfill us, to save us, to make us happy, to keep us alive. We have been conditioned to believe that others exist in order to sustain our lives, our worth, our purpose, to make us valid in a world that has strict definitions of success, worth and value. 

However, in the last several years, 20-50... something dramatic has taken place.  People everywhere, regardless of sex, race, socio-economic status, or political affiliation... have awoken a sleeping giant within. People around the world are refusing to be ruled by conditionings or outdated beliefs that insult the soul. Everyone is awakening to the truth that there is something divine within themselves, and no one outside of themselves will honor it until they do. I can not honor in you what I refuse to see within myself. 

Relationships of all kinds have been based on the idea that one completes the other, or two halves of a whole... implying that one without the other is not enough, that their worth or value is somehow diminished as a result of being "without" another. Even in jobs, and wider family relationships where an individual is seen as some separate part of an imagined whole, and therefore must comply to the overall dictates of the "head" of the "whole". Everyone has their bit part to play. And without that person acquiescing to their assigned role, the whole thing falls apart... so we are bullied into rescuing everyone and everything. We cant see how this in fact feeds the implication that we and they are not enough on our/their own. Hence, we have created and perpetuated victims. 

There is a great shift taking place at this moment. A shift away from the victim/bully/rescuer cycle that was created as a means by which to fully explore the capacity to which we could experience ourselves separate from not only each other, but God (Source/Creator). There is no judgment in that. It is perfect. But WE are done with that game now. As a collective we wish to once again experience ourselves as WHOLE; both individually and collectively. We no longer wish to create imagined enemies, for we understand that in order to see another as an enemy we have to first experience that anger and hatred towards ourself. The energy is unpleasant and we realize it creates DIS-ease within ourselves and our highest preference is for peace and ease. 

What does any of this have to do with our love relationships at this time? Well in short everything. As the old masculine (not necessarily "male") paradigm of fear and control, lack and need, falls apart... we as a collective recognize that we dont want to go BACK to the days where everything was matriarchal either... we are seeking balance... we are seeking freedom... we are creating a space for wholeness... for expression as it is... we are pushing for a new way, a higher way, one that celebrates all that every being is; in whatever way he/she wish to be. We are seeking to live beyond boundaries, from our heart, from our joy, from the absolute highest expression of ourselves that we can possibly find. 

It isnt good enough to be of service any more, but we must be in celebration and FEEL celebrated... we must be in freedom and FEEL FREE... me must act in joy and FEEL joyful. Duty to and commitment to... just arent good enough reasons to remain in a situation any longer. Our souls seek to dance and expand. Our souls recognize the eternal nature of all things and that every situation is temporary... the question to ask is, if you knew everything was perfect and that there was nothing to lose by living your highest dreams what would you do now? 

At this moment ALL contracts, vows and bonds are being nullified, broken, resolved. SO many of us came into this lifetime for the sole/soul purpose of tying up loose ends from past lives... it is done. It is over. It is safe to let it go. 

I think so many are tired of being the people we have been.  And in order to step fully into our NEW BE-ing we have to let go of whatever no longer supports and celebrates that. And it hurts because some of these people, environments and beliefs have been so kind to us when we were needy. They gave us exactly what was required for us to get it all out of our systems. Often these people and situations were carry overs from previous lives and now it is cleared, we are free to let it all go. And all returns to the clean slate. A perfect state of allowing what is. Love. It is like the end of a play on stage... all the actors the baddies and the goodies come out at the end and all are viewed equally as having played their role perfectly. They take their bows and backstage they all are friends no heroes and villains no victims or bullies, just friends... and they all go back to their respective homes... happy and content with the great fun they had. 

And as we are open to interactions that reflect our bliss... love-ships, heart-ships, blissships are created.... By definition in order to have a "relationship" you need to RELATE... which implies seeing another as separate from yourself, who exists independently to you. In order for this  relating to occur.. there must by definition be conflict, difference, so as to find a place to meet at, to find a point of relating... 

 I realized the other day as other clients were talking of sudden breakdowns and breakups that this is rather a collective masculine (not necessarily "male") way of DO-ing... and it is no longer working for the world, and things are breaking down so that they can be made new. It is like there is an impending rebirth. In stepping into love from a place of freedom, celebration and joy... we have stepped into the darken room... and if feels as if our hearts have been broken open... and as we bare our chest in agony... we see that the broken heart has revealed our light within, and we see all around us all we have ever needed... and desired... just obscured in the darkness of our fears and conditioned minds... bliss is just beyond the broken. 

When it comes down to it... when we let it all go, we have space to let it all in... 

Blessings,

Jenn

The Divine Feminine... a new look at an eternal concept....

"Feminism" is a loaded word. It is bound to get a reaction. It is divisive and yet it seeks to unite. But what is it really about? Equality? Respect? Honor? "Anything you can do I can do better?" The meaning is relative to the person who is using it, I think that, at least, is something we can all agree on. Maybe?

So maybe it is time to look at creating a definition that works for ALL women. Maybe it is time to go back to the beginning, and revisit HIS-story. Maybe we only go forward in our divine paths, by seeing where we have come from.

I anticipate that this is going to be a series of blogs on my ideas about Divine Femininity. I am quite nervous about broaching the subject, as though it is something I am quite passionate about, I have a feeling it may bring up emotions. So finding the nearest place to duck! There is so much to be said and it is important for me to express that these are my personal understanding and may not resonate with many people and that is ok. There are many paths to Truth, and we must all create and discover our own.

The reason I have felt moved to write about this stems from a lot of the healings I have done recently. I have noticed two things... Firstly, over 90% of my clients are women, and secondly, the majority of those women are being guided to remember the path of the divine feminine... I will say that the men I have had the honor of working with are in TOTAL support and alignment with the re-establishment of the Divine Feminine. We will talk more about that later...

So when I am talking about the Divine Feminine, let me be clear about what I am NOT talking about. I am NOT talking about being equal in ALL ways to a man; in a man's world... quite frankly, I have never had the desire to relieve myself whilst standing, as convenient as it may be at times, not bothered. And let's be honest, what chance is there EVER of being absolutely "equal" in a patriarchal societal setup, (and the same could be said for a matriarchal set up... which is what has brought us to this point). Nor am I talking about women being tough or strong or bullying or domineering or bitchy or manipulative or controlling or weak or feeble or victims. NOR is the Divine Feminine defined by sex or sexual orientation. When I speak of the Divine Feminine (and from here on "women") I am referring to our heart/soul experience of the world.

A NEW WORLD... one in which BOTH the Feminine, and the Masculine are honored equally as they walk together supporting the other, no longer in competition with or fear of the other... seeing each as compliment and mirror to the other... in harmony and balance. The vessel of creation working with and supported by the flow of creative energy... in dynamic bliss.

What I am talking about and will explore further, is women stepping into and claiming emotional freedom. Physical freedom, personal freedom, being able to express themselves in the way that resonates with their soul. And this includes the masculinized feminine as well, if that is who one truly is.  Now as nice as that sounds it requires an EXTREME departure from the norms established by and excepted by Western culture (women included)... this has now of course spread around the world and we can clearly see its negative effects.

Where there is lack of freedom, there is insecurity, there is neediness, there is dependency, there is lack there is victimhood. Where there is victimhood, there is the bully and the resucer. Now most will argue that women, thanks to the feminist movement, HAVE equal rights and are essentially able to have it ALL. And it is important to recognize that the Feminist movement is completely to thank, honor and recognize for getting us THIS far in a MAN's WORLD. But I think if we look at that closer we can see that this isnt necessarily the case that all things are equal. Sure there are women that are powerful business leaders, sports players, politicians, etc etc etc... but are they really free to be and embrace themselves. In my opinion, there is always a price to pay. Quite literally too. (but I digress).

Women that find themselves in positions that the world views as "equal" to the professional male, for example, have been conditioned to believe that there are only really one of two choices, to become like a man to survive, in the sense of being tough, thick skinned, controlling or well... what we generally associate with male success... taking no prisoners... OR using their feminine gifts or ways to get ahead. Now obviously there a million exceptions to the rule, but the lie that as women we have been fed is that women can have it all AND be genuinely happy AND have all those around her happy as well. Someone somewhere loses out when we try to be what we arent in a man's world.

 It is in the papers and on the news every single day... "Children do better in  when mother stays home."   "Research shows that kids of working moms fare just as well", "Most families need two incomes to survive" "Families with single parent income have higher rates of behavioral issues", "Single mothers make better managers" and the list goes on and on and on... then there are the looks from other women, the mumsnet, the blogs, the advice sites... and it is disturbing that we as women have turned against each other out of fear and misunderstanding. We have forgotten that it takes a village to raise not only a child but healthy compassionate, forgiving and honest adults, that see the world through the eyes of everyone is doing his/her best. We have created and supported and fed a culture of competition, where the strongest survive and the weakest... sod off. But what if... what if our strength is not found in our power to hurt, but our power to heal.

Who would we be if we loved all? Who would our children be if they were taught to love honor and accept all, AND at the same time push and encourage each other to live within their own strengths and talents. I am not talking about this watered down version of mediocrity that has crept into the the institutions, but allowing our children and ourselves to really embrace their talents and support that!! We live in a different world than the post modern industrialist did when they created our current educaiton system. There are kids now that know more about programming, health inventions, philosophy, there are children that are interested in and passionate about things that traditionally adults have told them were fairy tales or hogwash... but now, they are compelled to make a difference. We should be following their lead. We should be finding a way to support their callings and passions as we strike out to support their own.

What I am suggesting is a radical departure from the last few thousand years of conditioning, but I feel the time is now. Not only are women tired of the way things have been, and all of the pressures to achieve... but the men are exhausted as well, it is hard to live each day at war, in conflict, constantly believing the world is in need of salvation, that there is constant threat at every turn. Wouldnt it be nice to BE at peace? Wouldnt it be nice to look to another and see your brother and know that all was well...

The return to the Divine Feminine takes far more courage than running a country or company. It requires taking a stand for peace, for love, for all children everywhere to be honored, loved and cherished, for seeing the world as ours not mine. The return to the Divine Feminine seeks to make peace first with ourselves and then all that is around us. We are in the world as peace makers. We are the ones that teach our children to love one another or fear the other.

As women we have been conditioned in recent centuries to suspect, resent, compete, belittle, bully or possess. And oft times it is our fellow sisters we turn against. We have had cause. When we are dependant on the man for our survival and that of our childrens we have no choice. But what if we gathered around each other in communion, cooperation and created support for and with one another... what if we looked at our sisters as companions for this journey. What if we returned to the paths of the ancient priestessses, but with new eyes, new understandings and love. Just how different could our world be if we showed up in all of our strength, our divine power? What if we dropped the need to be masculinized women, and just be what we always have been... What would the world look like if we stopped trying to be equal and insisted on being our true selves, honoring our true nature. And that is NOT in the kitchen barefoot and pregnant... or subject or possessed or submitted to men, but walking our paths beside them.. shining our OWN light, gathering our own armies of angels giving love and support to each other, reminding our sisters of their divine heritage and they dont need to manipulate, control or bully anyone to have what they want... and desire. There has always been more than enough to go around. When all children are loved, cherished and honored for the blessings they are...

There are so many implications in the idea of returning to the Divine Feminine. And we will visit those more in depth later.

But for now, what would the world, your world look like, if you were free to live from your heart? If you knew all was well and that there was nothing to fear, and you felt loved and supported in all that you did... how different would everything be?

And the Divine Masculine is not forgotten, for the only REAL way to honor a man's divinity is through honoring our own first. And to be clear, the divine Feminine is not limited to being Female. This is a process of redefining ALL labels that have been assigned in the last few thousand years. The Divine Feminine as well as the Divine Masculine breaks down ALL barriers and limitations.

In Lak'ech,
Jenn